Aspirations – By Dean Nelson

What is it that drives us in life? What is the impetus behind our dreams? Why do some of us feel compelled to become the very best of who we are and others have no interest in improving themselves mentally, spiritually or emotionally?

When I was twenty-seven years of age, a friend turned me on to “The Psychology of Winning” audio program by Denis Waitley, Behavior Psychologist, author and speaker. This program inspired my quest for self-analysis and self-improvement. For the next three decades I would find myself immersed in self-improvement books, audio and visual programs, seminars and lectures.

My devotion for improving life for myself originated from my childhood horror of witnessing my father’s suicide. In the early years of my studies, I was desperately seeking a means of coping with my childhood emotions and memories. Ridden with guilt, shame, anger, frustration and depression, I knew the possibility of following the same path as my father was lurking in the future.

Fortunately, I had married the perfect woman for me. Paula was incredibly instrumental in helping me turn my life into one of my dreams. She assisted in opening my mind to experience life outside the confinement of my religious indoctrination and limited belief system.

A world of unlimited possibilities was in my own hands.

Many people have experienced far greater tragedies than I and my guess is that many of these individuals has been drawn into similar quests for wellbeing as a result. What about those who have easy lives and have never experienced major traumatic events?

Many are those who enjoy life as it is and have no interest in growing mentally or spiritually. They live each day as it comes and give little or no thought to aspirations of becoming the best person they can be. This is the way of life they have chosen and that is perfectly fine.

Then, there are those who are unhappy with their jobs, relationships and personal status. Even in the midst of discontent, they give no regard to learning ways of enhancing their lives. They wish things were better for themselves but, they will not put forth any effort in finding ways to improve their lives.

Maybe some feel helpless or they do not think anything will work for them and their particular circumstances. They settle in for the long, difficult ride hoping that something will miraculously change along the way.

The miracle is us! We can create the change at any moment during our lives. When we aspire for positive change, opportunities for change will present themselves. The more we open our minds and hearts, the more attainable our aspirations become. The more attainable our aspirations become, the more our aspirations will materialize. Finally, as aspirations materialize, we find ourselves living with an elevated sense of being and fulfillment.

Whether you are driven to success or content with life as is, there are advantages to making room for improvement in some area of life. I do not believe there are many people who are totally and completely satisfied with every area of their lives. Even if you do not think you “need” to change, there are still areas that can be improved upon.

For the highly driven person, a new level of success or achievement is always beckoning them forward. The fastest runners in the world have their records broken on a regular basis. They even break their own records. Of course, they aspired to do this.

Before we can improve the world we live in, we must change the world within. As we change, our world changes. As we improve, our world improves.

As Edward Bok, (creator of Bok Tower Gardens in Lake Wales, Florida) was quoted “Make you the world a bit better or more beautiful because you have lived in it.”

Dean Nelson

About author

This article was written by Dean Nelson

I enjoy exploring spirituality and consciousness while discovering ways of improving life for myself and others. My first book, The Experiential Approach, is listed on in paperback and Kindle versions. My goal was to be warm and passionate while inviting the reader to consider alternative means of making meaningful, positive changes in behaviors and thought processes. The Experiential Approach is the first in a series of mind, body and spirit self-help books designed to enhance life experiences by providing easy to follow exercises and thought inspiring philosophies. This book's main focus is how we can change the way we experience life. My second book, The Mindfulness Approach, is also on Amazon and Kindle. It's emphasis is on the mind-body relationship and how we can use the mind to heal the body through mindfulness and meditation. The last book in this series, The Threshold Approach, is being written at present. It concerns the mind-spirit relationship and delves into much deeper aspects of our being. This book will share insightful, yet simple, ways of crossing the threshold of consciousness into more meaningful states of spirituality and coexistence with the world we live in. Visit me at


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