Ever known anyone who you can truthfully say made such an impact on you that the decisions you make in your life from then on are made with more forethought and precision so as not to make their mistakes in your in world?
You know how the old mainstream story goes. You are born, go to school, pick a career path or not, get married, raise a family, hopefully, send them off to college, retire, finally travel, grow old and die. Many people follow this script.
”I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me – I own me, and therefore I can engineer me – I am me & I AM OKAY” – Virginia Satir
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The world is changing. .
I hear people say this a lot. They could be talking about what they see on the news every day or maybe they are upset at the shift of family values and want things to be like they were. Perhaps they are referring to the speed at which technology is spinning, much like an atom smashing particle accelerator and they feel they can’t keep up. Others, like me, notice the subtler changes. Like the shadow work being done within to bring the darker aspects into the light. More and more people are waking up. They’re asking questions, getting clearer, and paying attention to how they feel. Me too.
I do not know about you, but I see more layers to the average and the mundane than most people do.
Or so it seems.
When the littlest of happy circumstances happen out of normal everyday life… seemingly random, I try to be mindful and stop in awe.
To wonder at the Universe and how it has our backs!
I have been learning a lot more about myself lately and how my emotional triggers are a great guidance for me to explore what isn`t working, what I feel excited about and how important it is to have boundaries in place with others. These are just some examples of what my emotions tell me about my experience of this life of mine.
How did you start your day today? Did you have the day off and choose to lollygag in bed or jump up to the alarm and head off on an adventure? Did you throw on your housecoat of worries or dress yourself in a smile? Are you usually stressed out about your life all day, every day or grateful for the little things?
I bet you have a tale about a bridge that you could make a story out of. In fact, everyone has been affected at one point in time or another trying to get somewhere and found the quickest way was over a bridge.
One morning as I finished my meditation and thought about what would be coming up next on my to-do list, I was nudged to write this message to you first.
What is this message about and who nudged me, you might ask? It is a dialogue meant for you, reader, and if you choose to receive and use it as the start of growing comfortable listening to the messages that your mind and body are giving you…then you will find your “sweet spot “, “your bliss” or just be happier with your choices. Be open to receiving the gift of awareness you are about to be presented with.
When I talk to others about doing a life refresh, they think automatically that I mean to do a diet upgrade, lose weight, or join a gym. Why wouldn’t they think that since I am a Health Coach after all? Don’t get me wrong, eating clean can always help a person look and feel better, while in their own way taking control of what and how often they eat foods that are good for them. Wouldn’t be nice if setting goals (and succeeding at them) every so often was the simple way of feeling better about ourselves and the way we live our lives?
Sometimes being spontaneous is the antidote to a bad mood, a wounded soul or just extreme boredom. We all have these low days that make us feel a nagging discomfort in our skin and minds. Maybe it is the weather, maybe it is something deeper. It is that small irritation that won’t leave us alone until we stop ignoring it and give in to our subconscious desire to get up and go somewhere, just do something different, call up a friend and head out ….on a adventure.
How many people do you know that are truly happy and satisfied with their lives?
Ever wondered what it would be like to confidently say “this is the best life ever”? I did, so I went on a quest to find out who was saying this to themselves and others.
Here is what I have found so far…
The couple who have been married for 41 years and talk so lovingly to each other, actually are searching for the next new start up and start over and are migrating all over in search of the “perfect” place to live. The upside to this is that they have travelled the world and shared their experiences with others to enrich people’s lives, mine included.
The cheery young woman who gives so much of her time and energy to others and always seems to have the most uplifting and positive things to say while laughing and teasing people? She will tell you in private, when pointedly asked, that she feels disconnected from others and struggles to fit in. The positive note here? She is gifted at getting others to see how unique and exceptional they are and a huge supporter of mine.
My love of reading took hold at age 12 when I can remember using a flashlight under the covers long after my mother’s voice had warned me firmly that the light must go out. I had an insatiable appetite for novels like the characters had a thirst in the vampire’s books that my pre-teen mind found appealing at the time. Thankfully a couple of years later a teacher assigned the novel “the Crystal Cave” by Mary Stewart and my obsession with Merlin, Arthur and Camelot began. I still own that series but none of the vampires stories. As I grew, so did my passion to read anything in the Fantasy genre. My happiest days in High School memories were from when I volunteered to dust the school’s “stacks” in the book closet before summer vacation.