In the wake of the most recent mass school shooting in Parkland, Florida, I posted:
“My heart hurts. Sometimes it feels like this world is F.U.B.A.R.”
For those who don’t share my crude sense of humor, F.U.B.A.R. is a military acronym meaning F*cked Up Beyond All Recognition (alternatively Repair).
Someone who I mentored in the ways of Law of Attraction was surprised and curious about my response called me out.
This was different from my normally positive posts. That’s the thing about this world, it isn’t always sunshine and lollipops. How can I put a positive spin on more children losing their lives at a gunman’s hands?
The nation divides as people look for the reason: lax gun laws, bullying, mental health issues, pharmaceutical drugs, white supremacy, and the absence of God to name a few.
As I heard the news and looked into the bright wide-eyes of my 21-month-old granddaughter, I attempted to not let fear engulf me. I wondered how best I could protect her from this uncertain world. I can’t build a fortress and watch over her 24 hours a day, but I can do my best to ensure she doesn’t lose touch with her inner being who can.
When my youngest daughter was four years old, she demonstrated her clear connection and the power of her internal guidance system. After a lightning storm took out our Internet service, the repair technician struggled to fix it and he called in additional support. When the new technician arrived, he was very friendly toward my daughter and he attempted to engage her in conversation. I was surprised that my normally gregarious child was clinging to my legs and cowering behind me. I was embarrassed and tried to coax her into responding to him when I realized that she was tuning into something I wasn’t. She didn’t feel safe around this man and her intuition was guiding her to stay away. I removed her from the situation and let him focus on the repair.
It was then that I knew that I needed to not interfere with her knowingness. I even kept her from pre-school the day they taught stranger danger because I didn’t want any external influence to fill her with fear and cloud her connection.
Fortunately, I was able to do virtual academy with her starting in first grade. This limited her exposure to a fear-based society while allowing her to stay connected. Time in nature, play, writing, and meditation are a few ways to connect.
While more and more schools eliminate creative programs such as art, music, and recess, it is up to parents to ensure children have access at home. We must lead by example.
Limiting screen time is vital as we are bombarded by information that disconnects us. This interference causes even more stress and anxiety as well as focus on what we fear most. In 2011, Americans took in more than five times as much information as they did in 1986, an equivalent to 174 newspapers every day. We process 34 Gigabytes of information, that’s 100,000 words that cross our eyes and ears each day.
When we slow down, feel our way through it, we can process the data and discern what resonates and what does not.
When my daughter enrolled in our local high school her freshman year, it was a big adjustment for her. There was a lot of expectations, external influence, and in addition, she was introduced to lock-down drills.
While it’s important to be prepared for certain situations, these types of drills activate a vibration of what we do no not want to experience, in this case, an active shooter. Time and time again, our society has experienced unwanted things through the focus and attention on it. We are in an inclusion-based universe, which means that whatever we focus on—whether wanted or unwanted—is amplified and delivered to us.
Look how the D.A.R.E. program and the Find a Cure pink ribbon campaign drastically increased the use of drugs and breast cancer.
That is what makes my heart hurt – the tragedy of these mass shootings and the rapid growth and increased likelihood. Although it’s difficult to find compassion for the shooter, he is also suffering and acted from a place of disconnection.
The truth is “God” is never absent. Source runs through each and every one of us. The question is, how clear is our connection?
When we connect, we become present. Judgment of self or others doesn’t exist in this state. This fosters an environment of inclusion that is free of harm and fear of not being accepted.
While I don’t pretend to have all the answers, I do know that the best “protection” I can offer my daughter and eventually my granddaughter, is to continue to connect with her inner being and receive her own guidance. To trust and act on her intuition which will prevent her from being in the wrong place at the wrong time. And most of all, to focus on what she wants rather than what she doesn’t.
We can encourage all children to do the same. In the event of an active shooter drill, students can use that time to be grateful that there are measures in place to keep them safe. Then turn their focus on what they want – a secure school environment with appreciation for their fellow students, teachers, and faculty and the desire for everyone’s wellbeing.
I need to keep my thoughts and awareness on what I prefer as well.
I want schools to be a safe place for children to learn and grow, a place that encourages exploration through time outdoors, artistic creation, music, and play. A place that focuses on the various learning styles and allows each child to express their individuality and celebrates it. A place where everyone feels seen, heard, and respected. A place where connection is encouraged because connection is the antidote.
What is it you prefer?