Does it really matter? by Wayne

Does it Really Matter?


Here is the description of the word Ask.



Verb (used with object)

  1. to put a question to; inquire of:

I asked him but he didn’t answer.

  1. to request information about:

to ask the way.

  1. to try to get by using words; request:

to ask advice; to ask a favor.

  1. to solicit from; request of:

Could I ask you a favor? Ask her for advice.

  1. to demand; expect:

What price are they asking? A little silence is all I ask.

  1. to set a price of:

to ask $20 for the hat.

  1. to call for; need; require:

This experiment asks patience.



Did you realize that 80% of the books sold today are personal growth and self help books? Of those there are many that revolve around the word “ask”.  Take for example, Abraham Hicks, Ask and it is given. What about Kurt Wright, Breaking the Rules. Maybe even John L. Mason, Ask…..


When we ask for information and or that perfect book to come to us we are pre-paving things and information falling into our energy. The other day I just finished a book called, “The five people you meet in heaven.” As usual when finished I pass it along to someone else or return it to my library. While back in my library I seek the next book that will help expand my adventure. On this particular occasion I came across a book that I have never seen before. Maybe I did and just forgot. It is called ASK, (Life’s Most Important Answers Are Found in Asking the Right Questions). I am not here to promote any book what so ever but this one took about 20 minutes to read and brought forth 244 questions that made me go hummmmmmm.


Here are a few random questions from the book, When is the last time you did a random act of kindness? What good is inspiration if it’s not backed up with action? Whom do you need to forgive? The book is filled with many like questions that get me thinking on my life and how I desire to be.


I find the best way for me to move forward is to continually ask myself questions. Does this feel good or not? What do I crave to do next? Is there immense passion around my new idea? So…………..


The other evening at roughly 2am in the morning I made a visit to the washroom, still in a sleep state. Believe it people, I am 60 years old and my bladder is not as strong as it once was. LOL. I opt to sit down to do my tinkle rather that make a valiant attempt to hit that little bowl which usually ends up with more on the toilet seat and or the floor. So, while sitting there I observed the toilet tissue on the roll and suddenly realized that I have spent way too many years ensuring that the roll was placed under rather than over. I was at the point that I became passive aggressive to ensure that it was always under. That is the way I preferred it and if it was different I changed it around. God, I was possessed to the point that if I was at someone else’s house I would change it around.


Point being at this stage in life, I ask myself does it really matter? Over or under it’s toilet paper for freak sake. It has a purpose and whether it is over or under it has the same outcome.


I got to pondering other things in my life that I am holding onto rather than letting it go. I have always felt that I have done a fairly decent job at taking care of my inside stuff regarding growing up, guilt, habits, forgiveness and so on but now there are so many other trivial things that I can release and never have to worry about again.


I am one that keeps a fairly clean house, almost to the point of being OCD about it. Not an unpleasant thing in my thought process but to what extent do I have to go to keep stability within me. I have three cats and a small dog, therefore the hair is endless. Do I actually have to vacuum every day or two or can I now do it every four or five days. So what if all my CD’s are not in alphabetical order or my car is not as cleaned out every week. Does it really matter in the grand scheme of things?


Given the fact that my phone has the ability to access every piece of information from anywhere in the world, I ASK myself, why clutter my brain with all these tidbits of information or to do’s. If I can not remember a recipe, so what, just click and access it on the net. Why not make room for enjoying a peaceful existence without the need to retain the enormous pieces information that has come to me since the beginning of time?


Am I making a personal leap towards a higher spiritual being or am I giving my brain time off for good behaviour from all the clutter? Does it really matter?


I now realize that my life is more about me making time for me rather than how I perceive it has to be. These are only small changes that I have now adapted unto me but wow, so much weight is being lifted. Letting things go by ASKING, what a concept.


So, as I continue to ASK for more information to come to me, I see so many ways to bring my life to a simpler process and bring forth a more personal productive state of being.

So far, everything has become exponentially freeing and my internal energy is one of higher joy and bliss. The old saying of “Stop and smell the roses” has taken on a whole new meaning to me.


So to all you readers here at The Magic Happens magazine, is there some ASKING you can do to help advance you as an individual?


Peace and Love




About author

This article was written by Wayne Parker

Wayne is a co-founder of the popular online magazine, The Magic Happens: Humanity Thriving Out Loud. "The magazine works from the philosophy that human kind are not physical beings here to discover their spirituality but rather human kind are beings of spirit here to learn the joys of being physical and apply their spiritual nature to their physical experience. Thriving out loud means to live in joy where all can see and become a beacon of that joy so that others can follow on the path of unconditional love, inner freedom and personal magic. The Magic Happens seeks to present, through a variety of contributors, the idea that joyful living comes from an attitude of unconditional love for all of life rather then a life where nothing ever goes wrong. Life is challenging and each challenge we face each day is an opportunity to choose to push against what is or choose to accept and thrive through the experience."


Comments (1)
  1. Annette Rochelle Aben says - Posted: June 1, 2014

    I totally respect the toilet paper oracle! And the smelling the roses is where most people are these days I have found out for no matter how much housework I have or haven’t done, when visitors come by the ONLY thing they are really concerned with IS the toilet paper.. gotta love it

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