Freeing ourselves from history – by Annie Gelfand

How many times do you look in the mirror and think “my thighs are too fat”, or “my nose is too big”  or “my fat is too fat”? We all do it! Wherever we learned to fixate on our bodies as the definition of our self worth really doesn’t matter. What matters is what we choose in every moment.

Let’s choose now to never again allow anyone’s definition to define us.

We all know what we need to do, just like we know what is good for us to eat, but how many of us are actually following through with eating that healthy food?

I have been coaching people for over twenty years and this is the topic that comes up repeatedly. “I know what I have to do, I just can’t seem to get myself to do it!” is the phrase that everyone utters at some point.

So just what is the key to being free enough to choose something different? What is it that actually gets us to finally make a different choice in the moment?

We often distract ourselves by staying stuck, by giving ourselves no way out. We use all sorts of “addictions” as rationalization for giving ourselves no-choice.

How many times do we stay stuck and lie to ourselves?

The truth is we can change our choice any time.

So what if, we are willing to be really honest with ourselves, to lean in on where we are keeping ourselves stuck, to lean in on what is the true value of staying stuck?

The truth is that everything in our lives is a choice, conscious or unconscious. So if we have something that we don’t like that we continually find ourselves unable to change, what if we ask ourselves, “what is the value of these choices?”

Here a few questions to ask, using one of my favorite awareness tools, journaling. If you don’t like to journal, talk to yourself, meditate, go for a quiet walk in the woods or by the water. Ask yourself:

  • What is the value of this choice?
  • What else could I choose would be better for me?
  • Where am I hiding from myself?
  • What am I hiding from myself?
  • What am I using to distract myself? Money? Relationship? Business?

Be honest with yourself. You do not have to share it with anyone. Just stop and lean in and write it all out. You might surprise yourself.

………….“Change is good Donkey!” Shrek

About author

This article was written by Annie Gelfand

Annie Gelfand, MBA, CPCC, MCC, CFMW --- Known by her clients as the "Intuition Whisperer", Annie is a "Professional Question Asker" and she will have you sitting on the edge of your seat, with remarkably intuitive questions which will facilitate your deep dive into your own awareness. She left a successful corporate career over three decades ago, and gave away everything she owned to study with a meditation master in the Himalayan Mountains of India for 8 years, as she is insatiably curious about life. Annie now works with both corporate and private teams, relationships and individuals, to offer a perspective that is much valued, and highly sought after. Working with Annie requires you to be devoted to making change happen. Annie has the gift of getting to the heart of the matter at the speed of light. Annie's credentials include: Master of Business Administration Degree, and over 30 years in business, Master Certified Coach credentialed member of the International Coach Federation. She is trained in Organization, and Relationship coaching, as well as being a Certified Professional Co- Active Coach. This trained Inner Systems Facilitator has almost 20 years experience as a coach, numerous volunteer board positions, and is a Co-designer/Co-Facilitator of the Master Coach Proficiency Mentoring Program. Annie assists her clients in identifying their “intuition”, the thing that gets them excited and engaged in their lives and to learn how to trust their inner wisdom. Trained in numerous healing modalities, Annie is also a speaker, writer, artist, reflexology instructor, professional question asker, cat-obsessed and creator of magnitude.


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