Did you hear that?
That child spoke as a sage.
That sage spoke as a child.
Was one more or less then the other?
Or was the difference in the listener?
We affect our understanding of what a person says by how we listen to what they say.
It is both profound and remarkable. When we listen to someone as a sage, we attract the sage within them; we invite that person to show up as a sage.
That being said, we must also acknowledge that we teach people how to listen to us. A troublemaker will teach those around him to listen to him as a troublemaker. A wise person would notice this and listen to him as if he is a poet or a teacher and begin to change how he shows up in the conversation.
I challenge you – YES YOU! For one week, notice how you listen to those people around you. The turn it around.
Did you listen to your child as though he were a brat? Try to listen as though he was your greatest teacher or a wonderful artist.
Have you been having some trouble with your husband or wife? Notice what you are listening for and turn it around. Can you listen as you once did, as though he or she was your best friend and lover?
Does your boss drive you crazy? How are you inviting your boss to show up? As a brilliant person who helps you achieve ever greater success in your work?
After a week, let me know in what small ways your life has changed.
I promise, I will listen to you as though you are the remarkable communicator that you really are.