Huh? Whaaa…?” by Tori James

The other day I was reading Regina Brett’s 45 Life Lessons. Yeah, I’m a list kinda gal-love ’em! Anyway, I got to #43 “If you don’t ask, you don’t get.” (I’ve included her entire list at the end of the article).

If you’ve read my bio you know I live to treasure hunt and repurpose what I find in and on the ground. I’m always asking people, “hey, you know of any good places to metal detect?” Or I’ll see an old home, pull-over, walk up to the front door then ask, “are you the owner of this property?” If they say yes I then ask for it’s history; like when it was built, any old structures that are no longer standing~especially a chicken coop! Why is a chicken coop important? Well ya see wayyy back in the day, before security systems/cameras, property owners/farmers buried their valuables/money next to the chicken coop because chickens are Mother nature’s alarm system! Trust me on this one.
Then I ask the BIG question, “Can I metal detect your backyard?” Surprisingly my ‘yes’ success rate is around 85%. Plus I always offer the owner first choice of the finds! yep, I ask a lot of questions. Remember, If you don’t ask, you don’t get!

Yeah right.

One day I had three very special women over to my house for a “Goddess Craft day”…that day we were making suncatchers. Ya see, when I say I’m a treasure huntress…I collect all kinds of things like naturally holed stones and driftwood from the shores of the Great lakes of Michigan and Erie. Now I have all these goodies displayed on a table along with beads, mirrors, beads, all kinds of fun stuff. I was explaining how to make them when one of my friends asked me, “Did you ask permission to remove the rocks and driftwood from their home?” Huh? Whaaaa…? Yep, she was serious because she asked me the question again! I never thought about it like that. I know I’m always thankful for all I find/collect BUT did I ask permission? Um, no, not really. I DO give thanks.

So I’m gonna end this column by asking you-when you find a seashell, fossil, beach glass or driftwood…anything in nature, do you first ask permission before you make it your own? Do you think it matters? Ohhh…if you’re interested in making your own suncatcher~ check-out my how-to section:)

****Regina Brett wrote down these life lessons the night before her 45th birthday after being diagnosed with breast cancer.

Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
When in doubt, just take the next small step.
Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
Pay off your credit cards every month.
You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
Save for retirement, starting with your first paycheck.
When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.
You can get through anything if you stay put in today.
A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.
It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
Burn the candles; use the nice sheets; wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
Overprepare, then go with the flow.
Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
The most important sex organ is the brain.
No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
Frame every so-called disaster with these words: “In five years, will this matter?”
Forgive everyone everything.
What other people think of you is none of your business.
Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
Believe in miracles.
Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.
Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.
Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
The best is yet to come.
No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, and show up.
Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
If you don’t ask, you don’t get.
Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

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This article was written by Tori James

I can tell you the EXACT date when I received my 1st metal detector~July 1,1998...a glistening black Radio Shack metal detector. I had BIG plans. I went to the library, the local history section (I LOVE the library!)...and did research on lost treasures. No cache was secret OR safe... (I think I was a pirate in a pastlife:) I looked up old dumpsites, schoolhouses, churches and even privy digging methods! Ahhh, the early days. I've now upgraded to a "Fisher Aquanaut," I can dive shipwrecks, even though I haven't had a chance to do that...yet! My creating time is my contemplation time. I get lost in the process. Playing w/ shapes and color makes my soul happy. Oh! After a year of working in this form I discovered it has an 'official' name or technique...Pique Assiette; A French term meaning, "Stolen from the plate." Sooo...who was the original plate stealer? He's Raymond Isidore. In 1918 he began to collect pottery shards he found on his way to and from work. After years of zealous collecting, he covered every surface of his home, inside and out, with mosaic patterns. His neighbors derogatorily referred to him as "Picasseite"-Plate Stealer. I could hang with him...LOL My current full-time gig is as a radio DJ. Be the fun:) Tori James


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  1. Annette Rochelle Aben says - Posted: June 1, 2014

    Wonderful! I love the list because I don’t care where you are in your life, these are going to BE something to consider at some point. Thank you Tori!

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