We are all hungry to be heard. Which leaves me wondering, who is around to listen?
I have a hunch that if we all became better listeners, we just might find that we are also ‘heard’. So what’s the hangup?
I think it starts when we’re really, really young. Despite the best of intentions, the grownups in our world frequently fail to give much credence to the thoughts, feelings, and words shared by the very young. The following conversation between 3 year old Mateo and his Mom, Linda, went viral in March. Now, there are a variety reasons that it has caught the attention of so many people but as you watch, pay attention to whether or not anyone is doing any listening… despite the phrase “LISTEN TO ME” being used frequently by both of them.
Are we simply too busy trying to control others to realize they don’t need to be controlled? What they need, what we all need, is to be heard and then guided in a direction that shows us how to be in charge of filling our needs.
What I have learned is that the listening has to start within. How do you listen to yourself? Or do you even bother? I’ve been quite surprised to discover there are a number of people who seem unaware of their own mind chatter and it’s impact on them and the choices they are making in their lives. Since you’re taking the time to read this column, it’s quite unlikely that you are one of those… yet I will hazard a guess that even you could be dismissing opportunities to move yourself closer to ‘truth’ by refusing to take the few moments needed to catch and question what you are saying to yourself. It’s worth taking those moments because sometimes you’ll catch wisdom that can change your life course, sometimes you’ll catch nonsense that’s coming from a fear held by your inner child, and sometimes, if you persist in this, you’ll catch yourself turning a corner of your mind to discover a friend who is really, really glad that you’re listening.
So the next time you hear, or are tempted to say, “Listen to me!” — take a deep breathe and check in with yourself to learn exactly what you need to listen to today.