I don’t know about the rest of you but I do know that I am more than capable of taking things way more seriously than I need to. Especially – at least in the past – myself. And that has allowed me to learn a few things along the way.
Who I was created who I am now, therefore the only thing to do is celebrate who I was. That being said, I must admit that it was a long time coming for that level of self-forgiveness.
Yes I have gotten there – for the most part – and it was a lot of hard work because I have always taken myself too seriously. Even to this day, I have to work at it moment to moment.
And that’s what we are left with in the end; forgive, say thank you for the experience and then study our thinking process to discover the lessons to create empowerment(s) and build character.
Some folks may like to think that it is easier for other people to forgive themselves or someone who has wronged them, but that is not the way life works. I’ve come to understand that whatever a person’s worst thing is, it’s just as bad as another person’s worst thing.
In other words, if I drown in 60 feet of water, and you drown in 30 feet – what does it matter the depth? We are both dead. Each of us struggles emotionally no matter what the apparent depths of our hurt; hurt is hurt and there is nothing to qualify one as greater then another.
I believe one of the keys for me in forgiving others was in understanding that much of what I took offense too – whether I was the cause or someone else – was not as close to me as it appeared. Apparently, not everything is about me.
How about you? Are there any objects in your life that appear closer than they are? Did you agree to be hurt by these things? Do you now have to forgive yourself or someone else for them?
If you answered yes to those questions, you are caught up in that less than empowering place called, ‘taking myself too seriously.’
That is one we are all working on to one degree or another – none of us are perfect but we call all get better and better if we just keep in mind that ‘objects may appear closer’ than they really are.