Our mother passed from the physical world on Thanksgiving Day, of 2009. At that time, the responsibility of caring for the family home and all its assets, fell upon the shoulders of my sister, as she was legally in charge of the estate. It was a lot of hard work which my brother and I respected. This made her job that much easier.
In the family home, my mother would host all the holiday celebrations. Even if that meant only her children came for a dinner and a couple hours of board games, she went out of her way to make certain there was plenty of food and warmth. Once she passed, that responsibility fell upon us children; especially since we inherited the dwelling.
Every traditional holiday since her passing (traditional to our family) the three of us have made many of the family recipes, decorated and invited relatives and friends over for food and frolic. For some, it has kept the memory of my mother alive. For those who never knew her, it has provided an experience of love and acceptance.
Some of asked if we feel we “have to” do this, what with the mantle of responsibility being ours and to that we say, NO! It is our pleasure to enjoy celebrating in as much of the fashion our mother did as well as adding our own touches. We bear the mantle with pride and joy, just the way our mother did. Including hanging stockings on the mantel!