We all know that life can be done perfectly by just sitting on the couch. But that is not what living life in the moment and to the fullest is all about. Life is about being involved, doing , chasing dreams, and enjoying the process. It is very simply, “participating fully” and not letting life pass us by. I know that when I am done with this incarnation , I do not want to have regrets for things not done. There is to be no ‘if onlys.’
If we show up each day fully prepared to do our level best at whatever our calling is, then it would only seem appropriate that eventually mastery or success may follow. The key is being involved in the process. You cannot just mail it in. Yes, we all have those types of days where that happens. Its only human. Each day I ask the universe to show me my path and guide me while I navigate this journey.
As many of you know by now, my passion is horses and most specifically doing bodywork on them. A massage is like establishing a communication of a different non-verbal language. If I ‘m not fully focused and participating in the conversation with the horse, I will not be able to gain sufficient insight to determine if the therapy I am applying is reaching its goal. I must acknowledge the feedback that I do receive from the horse , be it through yawning, licking and chewing, shaking their neck and just releasing any tension in the specific muscle group on which I am working. By letting the horse know either through a good boy or girl, or a pat, it helps both participants in the massage continue the conversation. It is also a bonus that things aren’t always dependent on the spoken word. It makes the job that much more rewarding.
I take yoga once a week as it supplements my work in the gym which is three days a week. I believe that the only way to stay fit is to stay active and moving. I cannot lose weight, feel better , get stronger unless I participate in the process. You certainly can’t get fit just by watching the latest P90X or Insanity infomercials. You have to put in the work.
For me in my daily routine, I must be fully present and here in the moment as my work with young horses requires my full undivided attention. I must clear my mind of any bad energy or chatter because these youngsters will key in on bad vibes and trouble or injury is certainly possible.A guy I work with always tells me to “wuusaw” which means breathe, leave your baggage at the door, and make these foals your single focus. A very zen skill. Over the five years that I have been on this job I have seen changes in how I interact with the youngsters. Really, really gratifying stuff.
My confidence when I started was skittish at best and now I feel fairly comfortable. It is by stepping up and getting out of your comfort zone, and participating in a new challenge, that you will find many rewards of which peace of mind is a biggie. There is a daily reminder that when I’m not fully involved with any of the groups of youngsters I feed twice daily, I miss important things like illnesses or injuries. I have to be front and center to do a visual check of the body as well as their demeanor. Yes, participation is required. Kind of like being at a concert of your favorite band when the lead singer gets the audience involved with singing all the big memorable hits.
I remember a Tom Petty concert when he started the song “Free Fallin” and within a minute the audience sang right along to the point where he stopped and just listened. Always fun stuff. And yes, boys and girls, I try to sing along even with a rather plain voice. Its being involved in the process that makes it a blast. Don’t forget to roll down the windows, blast the radio and sing to your favorite song or whatever when blasting down the road. We’re all singers and showmen at heart. Ahh, but stage-fright got the best of my attempts. Where was that off switch to the chattering brain, when I needed it. But that’s another chapter in this crazy book. Got to try to keep you interested for the next read.
Life is not meant to just sit on the sidelines. I could stare at the TV for hours and really not gain much, or I can try on a new skill, step off the high dive, and really get into the flow of life. Things like sailing a boat, surfing, galloping a horse, doing a new tough yoga pose, cooking an awesome meal and many other joys are there for the taking. All we have to do is show up and jump in. Sometimes this involves speaking up as the universe doesn’t necessarily read your mind precisely. I have to say that I am going to surf in Hawaii. I am planting the seed. I am ready to participate in the action necessary to make this happen. No timetables as they set you up for failure. A carefully nurtured plan that is cared for , watered and loved will eventually bear fruit. The key is to be aware and be able to read the signs that come your way.
I don’t come from a large family. My youngest daughter bore me a grandson, who is approaching 16 months. She asked not for toys, gifts etc but to be present and fully participate in Wyatt’s life. So I have been more active in going to see him more frequently, and participating in his life. Rather than be called grandpa or grandfather , I am called Boboo. I like that as there was a Boboo in my life who was quite an eccentric guy. I always remember him whispering to me at the dinner table, “Nothing gives me greater pleasure in life than to balance peas on the end of my knife”. He used to have an old rustic cabin down by a stream and would take me down there to play in the water, look for tadpoles, avoid snakes and do any silly stuff. He by his presence and participation in my life was a big influence on me. He reminded me of a Mark Twain character.
In the end, its about being present, being in the moment and participating in life’s sweet gifts. There really isn’t anything ordinary, rather to me its all extraordinary.