I dreamed one day of leaving my job. Yes it was lucrative—yes it was stable, yet it did not fulfill me anymore. It was a drain on my mind, body and heart. I hear so many mirror this statement and wish they could get out.
We all want and need to embrace whatever our desires are, and sometimes that means presenting them to the world and making a living from it. We have to pay the bills, right? That also means waking up to our work and having it feel like pleasure. Showing our best abilities and allowing others to see and benefit from them—personal growth at it’s best!
But how do we move past the fear to realize our dream of being in a career we love? Here’s how I moved forward and so can you.
Where’s the money honey
I know, you’re scared. The terror in you bubbles up like an exploding volcano. How will I keep up with necessities, take care of my loved ones, even put food on the table? Make a plan. Figure out your best way to make it work. Whether you dig into savings, IRA, pick up part time jobs, borrow funds, do it in a way that feels good to you and does not add additional stress.
I created a combination of activities to make my income work. I wanted to start a business around helping others raise their happiness levels personally and professionally. After I left my job, I had the good fortune to be asked to teach at the college level. I also picked up a few small marketing gigs and did some dog sitting. I refused to do anything that did not fill my soul. This work felt like fun and although it took time away from my business, I enjoyed it while I was creating the Happiness Hangout®. I dipped into savings at times, rid myself of unnecessary expenses and even got some home payments lowered.
But, how will I find the time?
Fair question. I’m a planner so it was fairly easy. I made sure that I had one full day dedicated to the business and at least a few hours other week days to move ahead. I also made sure, and this is really important, that I scheduled some down time each day. You must take the time not just to re-energize but to give your brain down time to rest and allow creativity to flow in. It’s amazing how solutions to problems come right to you when you rest a bit. It’s also important that you remember those who love you and make an effort to include them in your new journey. Include some relaxation time with them and you all by yourself too.
Get a planner. I use my phone calendar and follow it like clockwork. Be flexible when needed but stay on task. I love to check off activities I complete and give myself a little treat for doing so. Some days this girl needs a slice of pizza. Other days, I just take a little walk with the dog to add that needed burst of energy. Whatever you do, remember that you do have enough money coming in to cover expenses and have a bit left over so relax and have fun with it.
Where will I find the resources I need?
How in the world did we live without the Internet? Here’s the thing and I swear I’m not kidding—just simply type what you need in Google. Yes you may have to research and look around a while but it’s all there. Also, assemble a plan of action to make you feel more at ease and in control of what you are trying to create. Just google “business plan” or check out your local chamber of commerce or any association that supports what you do. You might even find a mentor along the way.
One of my first endeavors was figuring out the easiest way to make some funds in my business. I have done many speaking engagements so I just created seminars on raising happiness. I hooked up with business and women’s networking groups, Facebook groups and grew my social media with those who needed what I was providing. I know it sounds simple and there’s more to it but there is plenty of information in your field to get you going. Just do something.
Don’t forget about you friends and family. They are the low-hanging fruit and want you to succeed. They also have contacts and will love you through the challenging days. Allow them to help, and even pour you a glass of wine if they must.
Fear can be paralyzing.. It stops people in their tracks, even those with the best intentions. I’ll give you the advice that was given to me at a party one day by my friend Pat. She said, “Just do something each day to move you closer to your goal. Don’t make it a race or it won’t be fun. You will get there and when you do, savor and cherish the moment because you will do it girl—I know you will.” I wanted so badly to write a book about happiness and actually be an author. The picture above is me holding my first book, Getting Married at Last- My Journey from Hopelessness to Happiness.
Over the past two years, I have been doing happiness presentations, writing articles, hosting a radio show and now have my first book. In case you wondered, I have just started to make money. However, the journey along the way has been enlightening, fun, challenging and now fruitful and isn’t THAT what life’s all about. Take your journey—it’s not only your right, but your destiny.