One of the real joys of life is the chance to stop, reset the focus, exhale and know I can always start my day over at anytime. Pretty powerful medicine. Such a delicious thought. For so long, if I was stuck in the old hamster wheel of going nowhere fast, I would just accept it, put my blinders on, be the dutiful soldier and march on. Include a little more grimacing as I march. Little did I realize that I always had the power to change my situation in a blink of an eye.
I truly believe in the power of breath. As a yoga practitioner, I am taught that my breath is key in allowing my body to expand deeper into poses with comfort and grace. When I breath deeply and with intent, I let go of struggle and pain. The poses become more meaningful on both a spiritual and physical level. My breath allows me to refocus, expand and realize one of life’s little treasures.
In tight situations, if I remember to just stop and take a deep breath, I return to the moment and all will be well. The breath is resetting. Not that it is as easy as one, two, three, and sunshine and daisies will suddenly appear, but it is something that takes subtle practice. We are the captains of our ships and have the inherent ability to direct the paths of our lives. Such a powerful tool at our fingertips. Being able to start over at any point of our day brings us back to the immediate moment and helps us not get sucked into the vortex of reliving the past or fretting the future. Such an energy waste. We are giving options not to get stuck in wallowing, whining and self pity. You know, “Why me….” It is acknowledging that where you at at is not forever, being able to accept it and realize changing the situation is available, and then, letting whatever hounds you go. Life is much too short to live with regrets and hovering in mediocrity. Again it is as simple as realizing the negativity, feel whatever feelings at that moment and move forward. Rise up, spread your wings and start anew.
It is easy in this day and age of 24 hr non stop bombardment of information. Very easy to get stuck in the mire and muck of being a slave to technology. Recently I have taken a break from social media, I was too distraught over the continual hate and angered thrown out on various platforms. By disengaging, I have found a bit of freedom and charting the direction of my journey. With all the hacking and misinformation out there, I have changed my perspective on what I put out on social media and makes me an honest participant in my daily life. It pains me to see a group of people at a restaurant, and everyone is looking at their phones rather than getting involved in face to face conversation. I have heard of a game where everyone puts there phone in the middle of the table. The first person to pick up the phone before the end of the meal has to pick up the check for the group. There is a little motivation to get a conversation going. Welcome back to real communication. Yes, there is hope for humanity. I think like everything else in life, it is about moderation.
Being fully engaged in each day is so important. So many mini-miracles happen if we are aware and cognizant. There is no payoff to hanging out with what might have been or what may be. Two partners that I am learning to live without. This, too, takes practice. Breathe….
Why is it then the most simple things can become the hardest. And this is where the “reset” button helps. It is a lesson that as humans we seem to complicate. Too much overthinking and over analysis. I think we relish those two things for some stranger reason. Maybe we are hedging our bets and not trusting our own intuition. Your gut rarely fails you.
Life has given us so many gifts to help us become the masters of our own destiny and how we shape our lives. We have the ability to stop, breather, refocus and take on whatever obstacles are placed in our way. So much of what we chew on is just not that big a deal yet we seem to try to make it the same. During my riding days, I remember that in a jumping lesson, I was so fretting about the height of a jump, getting more nervous and tighter with each second. The horse is a master of reading body energy and if you are tight, disaster lurks. My instructor came up to me and said, “It’s not a big deal, and you are going to be too busy to worry.” She was spot on. I jumped 3 foot 6 inches for the first time in my life. Sometimes we get so hyper-focused that we need another individual to rein us back in and get our feet on the ground again. Ahh, the joy of being able to get a do-over. A key ingredient is choice. This one is a no-brainer in my eyes. Yet, there are so many times we just to make camp in the rut and become comfortable with feeling miserable.
I wish this simple lesson could be remembered when arguments take place and become heated. I am not saying that arguments are awful but it is rather when they become tinged with emotions running high. Anger, recriminations and name calling come knocking on the door. Adrenaline kicks in and both sides are off to the races with blinders on. The trip on the roller coaster of feelings make us lose sight of compassion. That’s when someone needs to shout “Exhale, breath , start again.” A chance to regain sanity and clarity.
Communication is an art that is not always easy for me. I am the sort that needs to think first, then put it into words. To be able to adjust my perspective helps me to take the fear out of communicating and not get lost in the will they like me conversation. It releases that stubborness and worry that can be an impediment to being comfortable in my own skin.
With the events of last August in my newly adopted hometown of Charlottesville, Virginia still fresh in my mind, I wish they city could have had the reset button and such hate, anger and tragedy might have been averted. I feel the residents are working on resetting the vision of Charlottesville as a place of tolerance and love. Martin Luther King, Jr. said it right, “the time is always right to do what is right.” And that is to always come from a place of love. I participated in the recent March for Our Lives in the city because I felt it was important to reshape my armchair views into action. It is crucial that we as a people rise up to fight hate and fear. So much of the conflict in life today might be changed for the better if we only took a step back, consider our actions and speech and perhaps reframe the discussion with less emotion. There is no place for the vitriol that we are exposed to. Oh, yeah, just change the channel, hit the off button, disengage from media and remember we are human.
To reset, is as simple as a blink of an eye, an exhale, turning a frown into a smile and seek our higher self. Finding the divine in each of us is critical. It is about the living the life we were meant to live. I can fully appreciate how non-violence was the most powerful tool used by Gandhi and Martin Luther King, Jr., to change the course of history. Call it a really big reset.
To quote the Beatles song “In the End“, “And in the end the love you take is equal to the love you make.” Kind of says it all. Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness are pretty amazing. Its about the precious moment. That’s all we have. Cherish it, appreciate, be grateful, lift up your fellow man, rise up, be of service to others, be loving and know that no matter what life delivers you, it is as simple as resetting your perspective. Pretty amazing.
Peace and love!!!