As my Philosopher Dad always taught me: “We become the company we keep,” so I strive to keep my company positive, open-minded, and non-judgmental.
What does mosaic mean to you?
A dictionary.com definition tells us it’s a noun that means several different things:
- Colored pieces of glass/stone that make a picture or decoration
- Something that resembles such a picture/decoration made up of diverse elements i.e. a mosaic of borrowed ideas
- An aerial mosaic made up of aerial photographs to represent a geographical area
My favourite definition of mosaic in dictionary.com: In an architectural plan, it’s a system of patterns for differentiating the areas of a building or the like – sometimes consisting of purely arbitrary patterns used to separate areas according to function.
When I think of mosaic, I think of people representing/exhibiting arbitrary patterns used to separate areas according to function.
I am essentially an introvert who exhibits social attributes/behaviors in order to function efficiently in business and to form friendships and alliances.
Like most people, I thrive on connection to community, friends, and family. My patterns of behavior change to accommodate the function. Do yours?
That’s not to say that I am not fundamentally the same person in every different function I carry out in my daily life, but I do customize my behavior and personality to different functions. I think it’s a necessity for me to live harmoniously in all areas of my life.
An example of how I customize my behavior to perform a function: While writing, I love to sit in front of my computer with my leg crossed in an almost half-lotus position (so my right ankle is resting on top of my left thigh near the knee, or vice-versa… I switch it up frequently). It’s a very comfortable sitting/stretching position for me, because I have sciatica and it’s a good way to stretch out the piriformis muscles…and it’s also why I choose to almost always wear pants 🙂
I sat like that once while I was hosting a current affairs show on television, interviewing a local politician. The feedback from the show was deafening, and it had nothing to do with the content of the interview. Everyone who commented said, “Why do you sit like that? It’s not lady-like to sit like that!”. So, I modified my behavior to conform to society’s expectation that women are supposed to sit a certain way. That doesn’t change who I am; it changed my behavior to function more successfully in the medium of television (and it also helped my decision to not appear on television anymore).
In life we are expected to conform to society’s expectations of behavior.
I’ve been a student of personal development and life-long learning for many years, and I know the objectives for me on this journey of life are basically to:
- learn to love yourself
- be kind to yourself and others
- treat others as you wish to be treated
- develop and practice a life motto of guiding values
- push yourself out of your comfort zone
- learn something new every day
While contemplating the writing of this article, I did a google search for “mosaic” and came across The Mosaic Institute in Toronto whose motto is “Harnessing Canada’s Diversity for Peace at Home & Abroad.” The Mosaic Institute is a “think and do” tank that harnesses the diversity of Canada’s people to build a stronger, more inclusive Canada, and promote peace all around the world. I encourage you to read their Guiding Values at http://www.mosaicinstitute.ca/#!guiding-values/cjmj
What I love about this month’s theme, and the definition of mosaic, is the diversity it represents.
That’s what I love about people. Our diversity.
That’s also what I love about Canada. Our diversity, and our example to the world that we all possess unique patterns that combine to make an extraordinary mosaic that represents our connectedness.
I still feel connected to people who judge me for the way I sit, or the way I dress, or the way I speak and express myself. I appreciate that letting go of judgment is a process of personal development, and it’s a process that few people have the courage to pursue. If it was easy, everyone would do it, right!?
So, now I just choose to limit my exposure to people who are not on my same path of personal development and those who continue to pass judgment, gossip, and hold on to fundamental programming from childhood/religion/culture that is illogical and hyprocritical.
As my Philosopher Dad always taught me: “We become the company we keep,” so I strive to keep my company positive, open-minded, and non-judgmental; but, I still appreciate the diversity of our human existence… that we all possess unique patterns that combine to make an extraordinary mosaic that represents our connectedness.
Til next time,
Live Well, Laugh Often, Love Always… and Stay Positive (and connected) 😀