We are separate from our mind, but we do not perceive this. We are also separate from our body, but this is equally difficult to perceive. It is only when we awaken to the reality from within that we are the watcher of our mind and body that we begin to perceive who is the Watcher of our thoughts! We are not the mind, nor the body.
Our minds are just programmed, and are in a typical repetitive rut. We do the same things again and again and basically fish for compliments, love and attention, and are swimming in muddy waters most of the time.
Watching our mind is to be with the mind, but also separate from mind. To be the witness of the mind and its randomness, its craziness, and its ridiculous insanity! Most of us watch what is outside of us all our lives and give a deaf ear to our inner mind, which is crying like a child for our time and attention, and our PRESENCE.
We don’t have time to watch our mind, either as a witness, or as a gardener. Whether we are a witness or gardener depends upon our samskaras, which is our innate nature or tendencies, which vary from person to person.
When we witness our mind we become good friends with our mind; we spend quality time with our mind without the blah-blah of running commentary or judgmentalness. We are just there, watching, and letting it all go by without getting involved.
On the other hand, when we are a gardener to our mind, we take a more active role. A gardener is like a loving mom to our mind. Very loving and vigilant, too, for that is what moms do; they watch and make sure the child is safe and happy. As the mind demands attention, we give it. If the mind wants to play in the drama of the world of pleasure, we allow it. But that is not the only thing a good mom does, allowing the child to play all the time. She does not only run between basketball games and the swimming pool, but also between the schoolteacher and homework.
Note that a child who is being brought up in a farmhouse with animals and plants and all the pristine nature, and no formal schooling, grows up to be a true human being with a mind that does not need so much to be rewired, to be befriended, to be taken through a rigorous spiritual processing. All of that training has been done by Mother Nature, the great Teacher, the One universal Teacher of teachers.
Formally schooled and trained minds need rewiring and restructuring. This is not done when we try to control our mind and thoughts, but when we begin to befriend our mind. Controlling parents are unable to take the child to a higher perception of life, however, we all know children who can say from their heart that my dad or my mom is my best friend. They are the ones who grow up to be true human beings.
So it is with our mind, if we try to control it, it will start to control us. Repress it and it gets perverted. Throttle its neck and it acts crazy. Be that good mom who is a good friend of her daughter. Be that good mom to your mind, and lovingly take care of it like a good gardener, watchful of the weeds and insects. We can be that good gardener, where we are watchful about the wild growth of weeds that suck the juice of earth depriving the good plants that have trouble surviving. When we are vigilant about our mind, when we watch, then we are aware when the mind is growing the weeds of negativity. We lovingly take care of the weeds without condemning them. If we are a loving gardener we will have a beautiful garden with flowers and fruits throughout the year.
So either be the silent, friendly witness of your mind, just watching it as you remember who is the Watcher. Or be that loving friendly mom or gardener to your mind and take a more active role to nurture and nourish, love and care, leading it towards light and fruition. Both lead to the same outcome, we choose according to our own nature. Awaken to the reality that we can be the loving watcher of our mind!