Do you walk away, or make it your business to get involved? – by Rhea Dopmeijer

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Do you walk away, or make it your business to get involved?

When people say, it is none of your business, they mean walk away and don’t intervene in any way. They don’t want you to mingle or butt in. It is the opposite of caring for each other and love as a guide to assist or lend a hand. When you are told to mind your own business, it comes from a place of fear, anger, worry or whatever emotion you can come up with.
So what do you do? Do you walk away? Let’s say you see someone hitting their child in a supermarket and you want to address them. Do you walk away or are you reacting to the event and speak up? We all know these moments, we already reacted biting our tongue, or too afraid to speak up for the repercussions.
It is not your business, is a phrase that is used often when people don’t want you to intervene. Yet when is it your business? Is this something we learn through society, teachers, parents when we are supposed to stay out of someone’s business? I was triggered today by the theme words we were given in order to write a new article.
Always a challenge, yet always a good way to just digest the words to see what comes up. Because I know this will always trigger something I am passionate about. As well triggered, because a lot of people tend to ignore what happens around them out of fear. So what do you do when you come across a situation that is threatening as well damaging to someone else, not able to defend themselves?
I know a lot of questions to ponder. What do I do when I come across a situation that needed to be addressed. Anyway in my point of view, because something had to tip the scale in its favor of the innocent or vulnerable one. Or make even numbers so the situation is more equal. Yet it also can take a lot of courage to step up in order to defend someone.
Especially when you don’t know them at all. Or is it easier to speak up to a stranger, instead of someone close, like family. All the child abuse within a family can be ignored. Every woman battering that is not addressed, allows it to continue. We all see a lot of prove of this all over the world. During wars on a big scale, as well the domestic wars in our own surroundings.
If we want to be of assistance, we speak up and address it. If not for love, then for what else? How can we be part of abuse by ignoring and letting it escalate, if we choose to walk away. What does that tell us about ourselves, as well the society we create along the way. I cannot stand by and watch how someone is mistreated and has no means to stand up, or defend his or herself.
You know how kids can play on a playground and start bullying another child. Mostly as a group with one leader. As a parent what do you do while waiting for the bell to ring? Even if it doesn’t include your own kid. Do you step up, or expect the teachers to resolve it. Or the parents for that matter. Are you letting yourself restricted by fear of opinions or repercussions. In other words, are you minding your own business, look the other way or walk away?
We have seen throughout history what happens if we walk away and mind our own business. The power a group has over one individual is way bigger then we realize most of the time. When there is social control within a group, one individual will not be allowed to abuse anyone that seems weaker. You can see this within every group of people, every family as well.
When it comes to over powering or empowering, what would you choose? We all want to be loved and sheltered, nourished and empowered. So when times are changing, we all can become involved. Not just because we care and are not afraid to speak up, because we are responsible as well. Ignoring a situation is allowing it to continue.
If it is fear that is holding us back to get involved, what would love create. How can we be in service as well to ourselves as to others, in order to change this perspective of fear. What it is, is that you and I need to give our strength and courage, as well to speak up and don’t be walking away from it. If it’s the perception, it is actually not our business which needs to be addressed, become aware.
Start looking within, to see how you would feel if you were in this position. What would you like others to do for you? We can create a world together where responsibility is the connection between each other. Not by force, or fight. That is it our business how everyone we love is being treated with respect, kindness and honor as well. We don’t have to allow others to manipulate or abuse those who are weaker and not able to defend themselves. Dominance is never out of Love, always comes through fear and misusing power.
This process starts within ourselves first. Love and respect for ourselves, as well being worth it to be loved and respected. This knowingness will change every perspective we had about the impact it has and had on our inner lives. Through the compassion of the Heart as well the kindness we can give to ourselves, to be gentle with ourselves as well.
Then we will be able to make it our business, to step up the plate and be the one who will create change. It is a fine line to know when you step back or walk away from any kind of abuse and danger. Trusting the inner change of self-love and self-worth will enable us step by step, to address the issues at hand. Not to walk away, but lend a hand and get it out into the open. All of us, every soul wants to be loved, so it is our business.
And so it will be done.
High Self @Rheadopmeijer ©

Heartfelt Messages 2-5-2017

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About author

This article was written by Rhea Dopmeijer

Spiritual advisor, Kundalini Reiki Master, Coach and Counselor, Energetic Therapist, Empath, Social Worker, Shaumbra I have been working as a social worker in shelters for battered women, nursing homes, psychiatry and hospital for almost 20 years. I am a Social Worker specialized in Women’s therapy. This included the area of sexual, environmental, cultural as well religious trauma. I LOVE sharing wisdom, insights, and tools that are shared here to illuminate esoteric knowledge in simple and in down-to-earth terms that quickly make Mystical Masters out of anyone. My unique style I created a Heartfelt platform which is focusing on healing Self and has been created to inspire to change your life. It offers a place for you to grow your spirit . I can tune in and offer the necessary tools that are helpful in the journey we call live in order to grow and heal to become the best you can be. “I belong to no religion. My religion is love. Every heart is my temple” - Rumi I have been working with clients in the several different settings in my work over the years. I work most of all individual through counselling and chats. The main theme in working with groups are about the different roles we learned to play growing up. Healing of the Inner Child is one of the most important areas I am working on with the client. You can follow me on my Blog What is Love (link is external) for inspirational messages. Twitter (link is external)


Comments (2)
  1. Kishan Takahashi says - Posted: June 26, 2017

    Very interesting article my freind. And thank you.
    You know I’ve tried to help others when out of work, who are injured on the floor and they say ‘I’m ok’ we are ok, ambulance is on its way, don’t touch them we are ok, we are not going to do anything because it’s all sorted, don’t touch her/him. Leave us. All under control. When I can see what they are doing is wrong and not going to help long term.
    Even when I’ve stated what I do they ‘the passers by’ think there Nurses and Drs.
    So I started to stop asking because of what I was I faced, and so did a great many other health care professionals I noticed.
    However 3 days ago I was on my way to my clinic and my freind who gave me a lift said that we had to go to another town to drop off there daughter, this was the first time ever this had happened and on the way there we saw an old man on the floor who had sustained a quite few injuries, which happens with the elderly as they have very thin skin. I attended to his wounds and care.
    So many people came to help, I thanked every one graciously and explained what had happened and that things were being done and he was in professional hands.
    You see I could have been dismissive like they have been with me.
    But I thought differently and I’m not them, I’m me. And I won’t change for anyone.
    I also explained this to the assistant local butcher who became my assistant who was helping with the elderly very grateful man that was injured.
    I handed over to the ambulance team I knew and was very happy to see again- after a few years of leaving the A&E department where I worked.
    It was a lovely feeling to know this man had such care and support around him.
    And that I should not stop asking others that are injured if they need help.

  2. Rhea Dopmeijer says - Posted: June 26, 2017

    Thank you for your open and sincere response I have a lot of respect for the caretakers. I believe by being true to yourself as you did, the response wil be most of the time positive. Without judgement we reach each others hearts. This will assist the healing in any situation. Bowing and clapping Kishan Namaste

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