”I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me – I own me, and therefore I can engineer me – I am me & I AM OKAY” – Virginia Satir
Most of us embark upon a journey of self-discovery and self-improvement after some of the most painful experiences knock us to our knees.
How often we have those experiences is really up to each and every one of us.
At certain pivotal times in our lives, the pain brings us to a point where we are searching for the meaning in our lives. Looking for clarity, asking questions like “why is this happening to me or who am I?“
Some people are more resistant to their individual personal growth more than others. They can not face their own shadow aspects, but instead, allow the ego to protect itself and project those aspects of themselves onto others.
This giving power over to our ego and choosing to remain unconscious is what is holding many of us back from the very things in life that we yearn for. It keeps us in the shadows, covers our lighter, happier aspects, robs us of joy and loving relationships and manifesting our dreams. We have to break free of the trap our ego has chained us up in.
When we hide from the darker parts of ourselves, we deny the other parts to live in the light as well. The message our subconscious hears is there is something not right about me. I am not worthy of love, or I am not good enough.
The subconscious replays this message over and over until it is such an ingrained belief that we react to anything or anyone that threatens it.
As a result, we find certain traits in others unacceptable and situations that keep showing to test us, and we stay unaware of these beliefs hidden deep within ourselves.
Ever wonder why that is? Why the same kind of people keep showing up and “messing“ with us? Or a life lesson that seems to be in a loop and just repeats over and over again until we finally surrender to the situation and ask “what do I need to learn here?“
They are called mirror for a reason. So we can SEE ourselves more clearly. Eventually, we learn to thank our mirrors and almost welcome them to aid us in our personal growth that has begun to bring all of our aspects (both light & dark) into view.
When this day comes, we will know peace, and we will know joy again, we will know how to love unconditionally.
As we accept more and more parts of ourselves, we become whole, and we attract people who are whole, healthy and happy and who love all these aspects of us as well.
For a while, I used just to shrug off the comments of others that I am not like anyone else they have ever met before. Today, I revel in hearing that because I have done the work and noticed the aspects I of myself I had been rejecting.
Now that I truly have accepted all parts of me that I have uncovered thus far, I can say YES, I AM one of a kind.
I AM me, and I AM okay.
Do you embrace all the parts of yourself?